Live in a state of what you call defeat, without despair. What would your day be like if you were defeated at every turn, but reacted with no anger or resentment or hopelessness, or fear? Spill your coffee, the car breaks down, you have a spat with your family, etc. If you will let these things just happen to you without reacting to them with conditioned mind, ego, there will be neither defeat nor despair. Both are merely reactions of the conditioned mind. Who really expects everything in the universe to bend to just our demands at the expense of all other life purposes?
Winning by losing:
1. To be in a negative state while knowing it need not be this way.
2. Rid yourself of the false notion that things should turn out the way you desire.
3. It will reveal things.
Unless we are right within ourselves, we cannot really enjoy the exterior world of nature and social activities. We only use them as distractions from our secret sorrows. But when we are One with ourselves, we are One with everything. There are no conflicting divisions between the Inner and the Outer world. Then, daily activities are pleasant, easy, rewarding.
We fail to see contradictions, for no one can see what he is unwilling to see. Self-study breaks down the walls between reality and illusions thus making us whole.
Watch for minor disappointments and annoyances. Become aware that you are disappointed or annoyed, and stop right there. Do not wrestle with these little foxes. Quietly watch as they appear, pass, and disappear. Just Let Them Go.
Whenever you catch a mental movie, a horror movie, running through your mind, when you find yourself repeating nagging negative thoughts, shake them off at once. REFUSE to be dragged along by the spell. In its place, be aware of where you are and what you are doing. Every time you do this you weaken your self hypnosis and strengthen your self command.
Whenever confused about anything, you must place awareness of your confusion first. By doing this you create a healthy shock inside yourself. It is a shock because it cracks the fixed habits of conditioned thinking which loudly insists upon contriving a way out. But the conditioned mind is in utter darkness about the way out. Awareness is healthy because it sets into motion the power and clarity of the Supermind.
The way to success:
1. Stand aside from yourself and watch your reactions.
2. Don't resist, condemn, or seek to change the reaction, but gently watch it come and go. That is all you can do, merely watch, be aware. Don't call them your own thoughts, for they are not. They are foreign intruders who seek to force themselves upon you. They have no real power whatsoever. In time exterior events will lose their ability to hurt, frighten or puzzle. Repeat these two steps every time unpleasant things occurs. You will realize that these are not something to fight, only something to understand.
How to be in command:
You are in command of everything that is below your own Psychic level. If you are above cruelty in yourself, you cannot be commanded by the cruelty of others. If your level is higher than hysteria, you are immune to mass hysteria of mankind, expressing itself in fighting and deceit.
In the Outer world people may seem to exert command or control over you, but no one can control your mental reactions to outer events. Nothing in the Outer world can touch a man living fully from his inner world.
A situation becomes what the mind calls it. But what happens if the conditioned mind refuses to call it either good or bad? It simply becomes a neutral event without power to harm or to give temporary excitement followed by the inevitable swing over to gloom. And how do you know whether the Universe is protecting you from an accident about to occur ahead on your destination, and so your car doesn't run for you? Can you accept that we live in a YES Universe? Everything we choose, the Universe says YES to it. It doesn't judge your request. Can you accept that what you give out returns back to you? Multiplied.?
You perceive the world in terms of ego goals. These goals have nothing to do with your best interests, because the ego is not you. This false identification is what causes you faulty perceptions.
An ego less man has nothing to defend, therefore cannot be upset.
A man shows his character just in the way in which he deals with truffles, for he is off guard.
Boundless egoism and total lack of consideration for others is like a hard chunk of ice floating down the river, constantly colliding with other chunks of ice.